How do you move through fear?
“I have been through some terrible things in my life, some of which have actually happened.” – Mark Twain
I love this quote! In a very humorous way, it points out the amount of wasted effort
and time we can spend worrying and being fearful of events which never even happen.
It’s all about FEAR and the power it can exert over us – causing us to not do the things we want or need to do to be successful in any area of life. We believe our imagined failure will come true, and so we don’t even attempt to do what we’re afraid of failing at in the first place!
That is what makes a failure: a person who is afraid to try because he fears the potential of a negative outcome. So where does that leave you?
There are a few mental techniques I will use to overcome fears that do nothing but stop my progress with my goals.
One method is to say “So What” to the perceived fear. For instance “What if I approach him about my business and he says he is not interested and acts annoyed that I approached him.” SO WHAT!
What is the WORST thing that can happen if you take the action and it does not work
out as you planned?
Often, the worst thing is not that big of a deal. Sometimes the “worst” thing can end up being the best thing. I read an article of a man who was fired from his high paying job. He felt devastated and scared. However, that firing gave him a lot more time to put into a home business he was starting. Now he is very successful at the home business and much happier than he was at the job that he did not like anyway.
Another reason we feel fearful is because we don’t feel we can handle it. Think of something in your life that you feel fearful about – a presentation you have to give,
confronting a friend or relative on a sensitive subject etc. At the base of the fear, isn’t there a feeling of “I can’t handle it.”? Whenever you feel fearful about something, keep repeating to yourself “I Can Handle It” – because
you can!
A great book that addresses this issue is a book written 20 years ago that you have probably already heard of – “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway” by Dr. Susan Jeffers.
If you have not read this book, I recommend it. And if you read it many years ago,
read it again!
When you don’t let fear stop you and you do the thing that is uncomfortable – it is
A boost to your confidence and esteem – even if the outcome was not what you were
looking for. Keep doing what you need to do. Your fear will lessen and your self esteem And confidence will rise.
How much can you accomplish in your life if you don’t let fear get in the way? Keep
moving through your fear and become unstoppable!
Sunday, May 13, 2007
Tuesday, May 8, 2007
The Pain of Discipline or the Pain of Regret
“We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret or disappointment.” Jim Rohn
Jim Rohn has many thought provoking quotes. This is one of my favorite ones – not that I ever have a problem with discipline! (LOL). If you have never read any material of his, I suggest you do.
Isn’t that quote the truth? It is so easy to not stay consistent with my plan to exercise, eat
low calorie (stay away from that ice cream!), work my business etc., etc., etc. Yes, that instant gratification can feel good, or at least comfortable in the moment. Not so good the next day or even in the next minute.
Instant gratification is a powerful thing. If it weren’t, many of us would be thin, fit, and living happier, more fulfilling lives.
I notice a big difference in the way I feel about myself when I do what I intend to do. My confidence is higher and I am more apt to keep on doing that discipline. Once I slip though, it can be a slippery slope.
Focus, visualization and an intense desire to reach a goal contribute strongly to not sliding into the Pain of Regret. Everyone slips or wanes on their focus (or at least everyone I personally know – if you know of anyone perfect, let me know), but it is getting up and getting back with the program that will separate the winners and losers.
At times of choice, I will remind myself of that quote – I will ask myself “What do you want – the pain of discipline or the pain of regret – Is this action going to take you closer or further from your goal?” It doesn’t ALWAYS work – the mind is really good at rationalizing.
However, it does keep my awareness higher in regard to what I am doing
and the fact that I am responsible for it.
Which do you think is the bigger pain – the pain of discipline or the pain of regret?
Jim Rohn has many thought provoking quotes. This is one of my favorite ones – not that I ever have a problem with discipline! (LOL). If you have never read any material of his, I suggest you do.
Isn’t that quote the truth? It is so easy to not stay consistent with my plan to exercise, eat
low calorie (stay away from that ice cream!), work my business etc., etc., etc. Yes, that instant gratification can feel good, or at least comfortable in the moment. Not so good the next day or even in the next minute.
Instant gratification is a powerful thing. If it weren’t, many of us would be thin, fit, and living happier, more fulfilling lives.
I notice a big difference in the way I feel about myself when I do what I intend to do. My confidence is higher and I am more apt to keep on doing that discipline. Once I slip though, it can be a slippery slope.
Focus, visualization and an intense desire to reach a goal contribute strongly to not sliding into the Pain of Regret. Everyone slips or wanes on their focus (or at least everyone I personally know – if you know of anyone perfect, let me know), but it is getting up and getting back with the program that will separate the winners and losers.
At times of choice, I will remind myself of that quote – I will ask myself “What do you want – the pain of discipline or the pain of regret – Is this action going to take you closer or further from your goal?” It doesn’t ALWAYS work – the mind is really good at rationalizing.
However, it does keep my awareness higher in regard to what I am doing
and the fact that I am responsible for it.
Which do you think is the bigger pain – the pain of discipline or the pain of regret?
Thursday, May 3, 2007
Miracles Start to Happen
"Miracles start to happen when you give as much energy to your dreams as you do to your fears".
Do you spend more time thinking about what you don't want and your fears rather than what you do want in your life? For most people (probably almost all people) that is the case unless there is a consistent and conscious effort in monitoring your way of thinking.
It is much more productive and empowering to focus on what we want to accomplish, who we want to be, positive changes we can make in the world around us. However, it takes a conscious effort to stay focused on the positive and not get caught up in the "drama" of everyday living. The key is to stay Aware of our thoughts.
Thoughts lead to feelings. Feelings lead to actions. Actions lead to results.
So, where do your thoughts come from? Why do you think differently than the person standing next to you in the check out line?
Your thinking comes from the folders of information in your brain. Your past conditioning determines every thought that is coming up in your mind. That is why we hear the term "conditioned mind".
Your programming leads to thoughts, which lead to feelings which lead to actions.
If you are not getting the results you want in life, you need to change the programming. topic will be explored further in my next blog.
Miracles start to happen when we change our programming and live from true choice in the present moment rather than being run by programming from the past.
Kathy Talkin
www.LifeWithoutLimitsNow.com
"The Past Does Not Equal the Future"
Do you spend more time thinking about what you don't want and your fears rather than what you do want in your life? For most people (probably almost all people) that is the case unless there is a consistent and conscious effort in monitoring your way of thinking.
It is much more productive and empowering to focus on what we want to accomplish, who we want to be, positive changes we can make in the world around us. However, it takes a conscious effort to stay focused on the positive and not get caught up in the "drama" of everyday living. The key is to stay Aware of our thoughts.
Thoughts lead to feelings. Feelings lead to actions. Actions lead to results.
So, where do your thoughts come from? Why do you think differently than the person standing next to you in the check out line?
Your thinking comes from the folders of information in your brain. Your past conditioning determines every thought that is coming up in your mind. That is why we hear the term "conditioned mind".
Your programming leads to thoughts, which lead to feelings which lead to actions.
If you are not getting the results you want in life, you need to change the programming. topic will be explored further in my next blog.
Miracles start to happen when we change our programming and live from true choice in the present moment rather than being run by programming from the past.
Kathy Talkin
www.LifeWithoutLimitsNow.com
"The Past Does Not Equal the Future"
Tuesday, May 1, 2007
Is Desiring Massive Wealth Selfish?
Is Desiring Massive Wealth Selfish?
When it comes to monetary wealth, most (if not all) people would love to have the freedom that money can bring, yet I often hear those same people put down people who live an abundant lifestyle. Jealousy? Maybe, but I think it goes deeper than that. Is desiring massive wealth really selfish?
How many times have you heard someone say something to the effect of
“I don’t need tons of money – just enough to live comfortably and get by”.
It is usually stated as if it is a positive thing – this person does not want to
take anything away from another person who may need the money more than they do.
Have you ever thought about that way of thinking as being SELFISH? Why do I say that?
Because that person is only thinking of HIM or HERSELF!
How much can you do for others if you only have enough for you to live
comfortably? If you make a million dollars a year, does that take away from another
person’s lifestyle? No, it doesn’t. They will live in the same way whether you have lots of money or not.
We have an abundant universe – there is plenty for all. Of course, many people do
not live abundantly for way too many reasons to write about in this post.
However, if YOU create massive wealth in your life, you can certainly improve the lot of many people. How joyful would it be to make a huge impact on the lives of your loved ones and other people/causes you care about?
Is desiring massive wealth selfish? Think of the positive impact you can make in the world with a boatload of cash and then answer that question.
Kathy Talkin
http://www.lifewithoutlimitsnow.com
"The Past Does Not Equal the Future."
When it comes to monetary wealth, most (if not all) people would love to have the freedom that money can bring, yet I often hear those same people put down people who live an abundant lifestyle. Jealousy? Maybe, but I think it goes deeper than that. Is desiring massive wealth really selfish?
How many times have you heard someone say something to the effect of
“I don’t need tons of money – just enough to live comfortably and get by”.
It is usually stated as if it is a positive thing – this person does not want to
take anything away from another person who may need the money more than they do.
Have you ever thought about that way of thinking as being SELFISH? Why do I say that?
Because that person is only thinking of HIM or HERSELF!
How much can you do for others if you only have enough for you to live
comfortably? If you make a million dollars a year, does that take away from another
person’s lifestyle? No, it doesn’t. They will live in the same way whether you have lots of money or not.
We have an abundant universe – there is plenty for all. Of course, many people do
not live abundantly for way too many reasons to write about in this post.
However, if YOU create massive wealth in your life, you can certainly improve the lot of many people. How joyful would it be to make a huge impact on the lives of your loved ones and other people/causes you care about?
Is desiring massive wealth selfish? Think of the positive impact you can make in the world with a boatload of cash and then answer that question.
Kathy Talkin
http://www.lifewithoutlimitsnow.com
"The Past Does Not Equal the Future."
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